Hallo, Candy,
I think that you, like me, have become a victim of a good deal of misinformation. My boneman, wishing no doubt to encourage me, said that after the operation I would be able to do anything that I had been able to do before. The only problem was that he forgot to say how very many months it would take for me to be able to do them. At the last count it was 14 months and I am still waiting for some of them, but to be fair to the gentleman, who has been excellent throughout, little by little I have been able to pick up on most of the ordinary things that my poorly hip had been refusing me for months and years beforehand.
So all I can do is to direct you to the thread, "staffsknot story so far", where you will be able to read about early, middle and late progress. You will find that we had some points in common, and others that were different. I got some early and timely help from Josephine, Jaycey and Jamie, mostly to the effect that I was expecting too much too early and that I should rein back on some of the activities. This I tried to do.
The trouble is that we active people are fools to ourselves as the saying is. We know what the eventual outcome needs to be, but we find it tricky to find the babysteps, the stepping stones that lead to where we want to go. For example, when Boneman said I would be able to do speed walking, I thought he meant straightaway and walked 2 miles in 40 minutes including a steep hill, after three weeks. Ouch, ooer, help! and a big bunch of expletives. I didn't know where hurt me most. My right thigh had been filleted and the bone replaced with rusty barbed wire. I was in despair.
The reasonable voices on Bonesmart saved me from a lot of physical and mental discomfort. I think it could be the same for you.
Here are some rules I found useful. They may work for you and they may not. Maybe have a think about them.
1) If an activity hurts, stop doing it for a time, and then restart from a lower base.
2) Never increase a single effort or a week's total effort by more than a very small percentage, say 5% - 10%. This is hard to calculate, but you know what I mean.
3) Don't despair. A setback is just a setback. It isn't the end of your world.
4) Try to find physical activities that don't challenge your repaired bits too directly. My own salvation was swimming, freestyle, not breaststroke, not yet anyway.
5) Tune out from people who know somebody who knows somebody who knows somebody else who played a full 18 hole round of golf after 4 weeks. They are talking out of a bit of their anatomy that wasn't designed for talking.
6) It is not a good idea to listen to advice from the likes of me.
All the very best. I hope things improve for you soon.
Alan