Hi and welcome to BS! It is a scary time for everyone..we were all nervous, and personally, I was petrified. But I also was sick and tired of my life being taken from me by my knee and it's inability to function well. The pain will be managed by pain meds-they have excellent ones and will make sure you are settled on them before going home. I see you need both knees done-it's your decision as to having one or both done at the same time, but if it were me, I'd never consider anything but having both done at once. One surgery, one recovery and it's behind you. I only had (and only needed) a RTKR, and I know both at once is a little more time in surgery, and double healing, etc, but I hate hospitals, surgery, needles, etc, so it would make the most sense to me to get it over with all at once. Ask for advice here from those that had BTKR's-they are a great source for you. As for your hubby, mine wouldn't take the time to read here, but he did willingly stay home with me and help greatly. I could not have done without his help-it ended up almost a month that he was home due to some unrelated illnesses I got hit with. But I originally planned for two weeks full-time with him home and that would have been perfect. It's a daunting recovery-and not a walk in the park, so as much help as you can get would be wonderful. If your hubby thinks it's an easy recovery-it's not. You will need a ton of patience as you go through different stages, some days are challenging and some days are a bit easier. But it's a long process-I'm at 8 weeks and am just beginning to do a few things around the house with lots of rest, icing and elevating in between. You'll need to take all the advice from here you can get, listen to it well and if you have any questions, fears, etc., someone here will always be happy to help you. We've all been through it, survived and come out on the other side with shiny new knees (or knee). Good luck to you.