sheryl7
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I was writing all this in a post to Dog Lady reinvented, but felt it was too long to take up space on her thread, this is explaining why I have chosen to have to wait til I am about 50-ish to have my knees done.
For one I am still losing weight, lost 40 lbs so far, maybe 60 lbs to go to be at my ideal weight in my my eyes anyway .
The 2nd reason I'm only 43( I know I'm not too young, but most doctors think so, & overweight, I do know there are OS's that will have no prob w/my weight, which is 185 lbs, so not that bad, but I would feel better if i weighed 125 lbs, as it would easier on my body & poor knees if I wait til ideal weight for me, & hopefully a lot less weight my may make a diff in the pain( although back in 04 I was 125 lbs, & they felt really bad then as they do now, maybe even worse, as I tried to do so much more, & that's how I got to weight I am now, by cutting out my activities:walking thru the woods, roller skating, house cleaning came to a halt. But I just force my self to keep on house daily as no one will. Days of no cleaning, is overwhelming for me to clean, so I must keep it up daily. I'll wait til I can have bi-lat as I can't do 2 surgeries/recoveries. I had surgery to help w/my bladder.
It will be 2 weeks on the 3rd,& I am still hurting where they drilled holes in my lower spine to get leads(interstim= like a pace maker for a bladder, so easier to explain) to sacral area, so back, spine & left butt cheek hurt bad. This is suppose to be an easy out patient surgery compared to a tkr on any given day. ( Although I may be looking at more surgery in pelvic area, as the pain is is really bad, & this bladder surgery I just had may not be enough to take care of all the pain I am in w/the whole perineal area. I have ovaries and tubes left, may still have a cervix, not sure, will find out when i see gyno on the 19th of Dec.)
Also been thinking about it, I have come to the conclusion that I want to be an empty nester by the time my knees get done , a bi-lateral if i can. I couldn't do that hard of a surgery w/my 13 &18 year old right now, they are way to selfish,& would still want me to do everything for them, I'm fortunate they at least cook their own meals. Its just that they are very sloppy, & hard to keep a clean house on a good day let alone being flat on my back with two knees done. Don't want to worry about cleaning up after their sloppy butts. Husband works 2 jobs, so he not much help, & since I don't work (because I physically cant between my knees & bladder. I was actually going to the loo between 75-100 x a day, now since surgery its has gone to less then 25 x a day, which to the normal person is still too much. But a God send to me!) It's an improvement of 75%, so worth it, just was hoping it would have helped the pain still have. It's not made to kill pain, only to help those who go too often, & actually the exact opposite, for those who are unable to go due to severe retention, and the urine backs up into their kidneys,making the diff between life and death, my friend has it for this reason. Her kidneys would shut down if she didn't have this sacral interstim in her ( the interstim is likened to a pacemaker for the bladder, its an easier way to explain it better that way)
Hubby feels its my responsibility to keep house totally clean, because he works all day & the kids go to school all day (sarcasm). But I would at least expect they clean up after themselves, but they don't, except for hubby, he will clean after himself. So I am hopefully looking at 50 before I get bi-lat done, if I can stand it for that long,as I know my recovery will be a lot easier when the kids have moved on. I could rest easier knowing the house wont become a wreck , & waiting for 3 months to clean properly won't be too overwhelming to get it done my self . W/hubby cleaning after himself, knowing I cant do it, it wont be to bad to recover & not worry about house being a complete pig sty. Once healed enough it wont be so overwhelming to catch up on it.
We are also planning a move this summer to the GA mountains or NC mountains, hopefully GA mountains, as I don't want to leave the state, too much of a hassle for me. So wish me luck.
My own thread has been locked for quite awhile,so I started a new one, so I can post this here. I could really use some support right now, especially with the move, bladder & perineal problems, & of course the knees, its very frustrating ,need to vent & share w/others. Thanks for reading post. Take care,Sheryl
For one I am still losing weight, lost 40 lbs so far, maybe 60 lbs to go to be at my ideal weight in my my eyes anyway .
The 2nd reason I'm only 43( I know I'm not too young, but most doctors think so, & overweight, I do know there are OS's that will have no prob w/my weight, which is 185 lbs, so not that bad, but I would feel better if i weighed 125 lbs, as it would easier on my body & poor knees if I wait til ideal weight for me, & hopefully a lot less weight my may make a diff in the pain( although back in 04 I was 125 lbs, & they felt really bad then as they do now, maybe even worse, as I tried to do so much more, & that's how I got to weight I am now, by cutting out my activities:walking thru the woods, roller skating, house cleaning came to a halt. But I just force my self to keep on house daily as no one will. Days of no cleaning, is overwhelming for me to clean, so I must keep it up daily. I'll wait til I can have bi-lat as I can't do 2 surgeries/recoveries. I had surgery to help w/my bladder.
It will be 2 weeks on the 3rd,& I am still hurting where they drilled holes in my lower spine to get leads(interstim= like a pace maker for a bladder, so easier to explain) to sacral area, so back, spine & left butt cheek hurt bad. This is suppose to be an easy out patient surgery compared to a tkr on any given day. ( Although I may be looking at more surgery in pelvic area, as the pain is is really bad, & this bladder surgery I just had may not be enough to take care of all the pain I am in w/the whole perineal area. I have ovaries and tubes left, may still have a cervix, not sure, will find out when i see gyno on the 19th of Dec.)
Also been thinking about it, I have come to the conclusion that I want to be an empty nester by the time my knees get done , a bi-lateral if i can. I couldn't do that hard of a surgery w/my 13 &18 year old right now, they are way to selfish,& would still want me to do everything for them, I'm fortunate they at least cook their own meals. Its just that they are very sloppy, & hard to keep a clean house on a good day let alone being flat on my back with two knees done. Don't want to worry about cleaning up after their sloppy butts. Husband works 2 jobs, so he not much help, & since I don't work (because I physically cant between my knees & bladder. I was actually going to the loo between 75-100 x a day, now since surgery its has gone to less then 25 x a day, which to the normal person is still too much. But a God send to me!) It's an improvement of 75%, so worth it, just was hoping it would have helped the pain still have. It's not made to kill pain, only to help those who go too often, & actually the exact opposite, for those who are unable to go due to severe retention, and the urine backs up into their kidneys,making the diff between life and death, my friend has it for this reason. Her kidneys would shut down if she didn't have this sacral interstim in her ( the interstim is likened to a pacemaker for the bladder, its an easier way to explain it better that way)
Hubby feels its my responsibility to keep house totally clean, because he works all day & the kids go to school all day (sarcasm). But I would at least expect they clean up after themselves, but they don't, except for hubby, he will clean after himself. So I am hopefully looking at 50 before I get bi-lat done, if I can stand it for that long,as I know my recovery will be a lot easier when the kids have moved on. I could rest easier knowing the house wont become a wreck , & waiting for 3 months to clean properly won't be too overwhelming to get it done my self . W/hubby cleaning after himself, knowing I cant do it, it wont be to bad to recover & not worry about house being a complete pig sty. Once healed enough it wont be so overwhelming to catch up on it.
We are also planning a move this summer to the GA mountains or NC mountains, hopefully GA mountains, as I don't want to leave the state, too much of a hassle for me. So wish me luck.
My own thread has been locked for quite awhile,so I started a new one, so I can post this here. I could really use some support right now, especially with the move, bladder & perineal problems, & of course the knees, its very frustrating ,need to vent & share w/others. Thanks for reading post. Take care,Sheryl