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Discussion in 'Hip Replacement Pre-Op Area' started by JennyLynne, Mar 15, 2019.

  1. JennyLynne

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    Hi everyone... I am a veteran of the knee boards. I had TKR on my left knee, almost 2 yr ago. I right hip was already giving me issues then, but my left hip came roaring out of nowhere after the surgery. My left leg was severely knock-kneed, and I suspect that straightening it out made the hip angry.

    It has been very disappointing to go through a TKR only to be sidelined so soon again. I am 45 yrs old and I have a 7 yr old son. He helps me with my shoes in the morning and it makes me want to cry. He doesn't know that he should have a mom who can run and jump and keep up with him, let alone get her own socks on. It breaks my heart, so I want to get this done and behind me ASAP!

    Currently scheduled for double hip replacement on April 15 with same surgeon as TKR (he only does knees a hips). I have met with the PA but don't see the surgeon until April 5. Ultimately, he will decide if I can do double or not - PA thinks it is likely. I am young-ish and in ok health - no meds or anything - though have put on a lot of weight in the last few years with the joint issues.

    My TKR recovery was great... got a great bend early on and went back to work quickly. I feel confident that more surgery, as soon as possible, is the way to go. But of course... I am nervous about the unknown. Scary to think of both legs being "down" for a while - but know once is better than twice!

    Always grateful for this space - the information and the support. Look forward to getting to know the "hip"-sters this time around!
     
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    @JennyLynne Welcome to the hip side of BoneSmart! Bilateral is the way to go. I didn't have it but would certainly have gone that route if both hips were complaining. One surgery, one recovery. I'll tag my colleague @Mojo333 to come and chat with you here. She had BTHR. I look forward to following your journey.
     
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    Thanks @Jaycey ... appreciate the support!
     
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    Best wishes for your future recovery!

    Let your son help without worrying. My grandson has been helping me for a long time and I finally realized it gave him comfort to be able to do something. Children are such wonderful beings. :)
     
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    Good perspective @SarahBee - he does like to help me. I am definitely projecting, huh?!
     
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    We always do, @JennyLynne It is human nature, I guess
     
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    :wave:and :welome:
    My possibly new "both at once" hippy pal!
    Sorry you are having to contemplate BTHR but if you want to get your life back...you've come to the right place!:ok:
    Please feel free to ask anything you are curious about...and know that in my case...i couldn't be happier!:egypdance:
     
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    As a parent, myself, I understand this. Your tears are because you feel he's getting shortchanged by you, but soon enough you'll have the ability to begin turning that around. The wonderful memories you'll create together will overshadow him remembering tying your shoes. And you know what else...it's teaching him compassion, empathy, how to comfort and help others. Valuable life lessons, so it's all good! He's also showing love, most important of all.

    Wishing you comfort as you move toward April 15th. I will look forward to following your journey and offering support and encouragement along the way. I hope you have a lovely weekend! :)
    @JennyLynne
     
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    @Mojo333 I will read through your history and take lots of notes! Thanks for the support!

    @Layla That made me tear up... thank you for the kind words!
     
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    Oh...don't take notes on my initial worries and whining. :umm:Lots of figuring it out on the fly with loads of help from my Bonesmart pals.
    I'm guessing you will do great and you'll be a much "funner" mommy without hip pain.
    Plus, you will be able to do this..:chuckmarch:.after a bit of recovery time, of course.
     
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    @Mojo333 Im sure my son will be thrilled to see me chicken-dance down the school hallway! :bignono:
    I started reading your thread- and honestly, it started to scare me. And then things start to turn decidedly more optimistic. I remember that so well from my TKR... I felt helpless and scared and absolutely positive I had made a terrible mistake... and then one day, I started feeling better. And the next, even better... and so on. Hard to remember in the moment, tho!
     
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    I think you will find this easier than TKR recovery...you've got this!!

    Well worth it...never regretted it and I'm happy and healthy!
     
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    Hi Jenny,
    Aww, I'm sorry. Didn't mean to make you tear up :console2:

    We'll be here to help you through in any way we're able.
    We'll be your biggest cheerleaders, supporters, encouragers.
    I'll bet you do great!
    I hope you have a nice rest of the week! :SUNsmile:
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    Trying to squeeze in all the fun this month, and it's a reminder of how challenging even the good days can be. Saw Hamilton last night - something I have been dreaming of for years - and sitting for 3 hours was awful. Thankfully the show was outstanding and mostly distracted me. But I was constantly shifting my weight.

    Next up... Justin Timberlake on Monday. That will be a real challenge ... all of those stairs in the stadium... but can't let these opportunities pass me by!
     
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    So jealous for Hamilton...and for the upcoming concert.
    I remember about the constant shifting :oyvey:
    Oh well...I remember I went for a trip to the coast boat riding and fishing the weekend before my surgery. I said I was going to wear those old hips out and they sure better be hurting me when I went to have them replaced:giggle:
     
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    I don't want to creep you out, I am not hiding under your bed but I woke up in the night thinking of you.

    I'm not sure if you are a single mom or not (think you may have said so?)nbut I was for almost 4 years with my first. The bond is indescribable to anyone that hasn't lived it.

    Anyway, I woke thinking what a fabulous gift you are giving your young son with this surgery. He might not remember much of these rough times right now but he will sure cherish all the great times in your future! It led me to think that I want to dedicate this new hip to my kids and grandchildren.

    I had a meniscus repair when my son was only 2 and he blew my mind with how much he helped me. I am sure your little man will love being helpful and feeling important. Plan a big helper reward for summer's end, let him sleep in your bed if he seems worried about you and above all be honest (without being graphic) with him. Apparently there is a kids video on THR but I haven't seen it.
    :flwrysmile:
     
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    Thank you @Carriemay60 I really appreciate your kind words. I am married and my husband saw me through my PKR and TKR, so he knows what he is in for. Apparently I am not always the sweetest in the early days of recovery :shrug:

    I know my son will help - it will make him feel good, too. And he is quite a snuggler so I expect to have lots of company for movies and such!

    Love the idea of a "reward" at the end - thanks!!
     
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    Two weeks to go... getting anxious in both good and bad ways.
    My surgeon started using a pre-op clinic at the hospital for the labs, etc. It was great - I met with a nurse, a PA and a physical therapist all in one appointment. Got lots of info and even a "goodie bag" with Hibicleanse and some other items. Very convenient to make one appointment!

    Spent the weekend at an indoor water park, trying to give me son a mini spring break. Sat most of the time... looking forward to being more "in it" in the future! Didn't love the 3.5 drive each way but I know that won't be an issue for too much longer.

    Accumulating the things I need for the house - new elevated toilet seat, reachers, etc - remembering all the little things I used for my TKR... now if only I could find where I put that stuff!!
     
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    Happy Monday, Jenny
    Staying busy sure helps with that pre-op anxiety, as I'm sure you remember from your other surgeries.
    Your 7 yr old son should make that easy enough. It's nice to hear you managed a mini Soring break with him. I'll bet he loved it! Wrangle up that stuff...the big day is coming. Your future looks bright! :SUNsmile:
    Hugs
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    Hi JennyLynne, I have the same date reserved. It's my first big surgery, and I'm bounce back & forth between I'm so ready to get this done and being very apprehensive about it. I'll send thoughts and prayers yours & wayner1's way as I am being wheeled in, and will join you both on the other side as soon as I am able!
     
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