It is interesting, I just posted on another post that I have a sense of loss associated with the knee surgery. I miss my old, stronger self. I don't like my new knees--they clink and clank at the most inopportune times. Plus they are not real knees. However, my old knees were no longer functioning properly either.
I am used to being strong and invincible--run in a soccer game for 90 minutes--hike for 20 miles three days in a row, with a pack; bike for 50 or 60 miles; ski 150 days per year.
Now, I am lucky to ski 80 days, I don't play soccer, because of my knees; I hike--but only 10 miles so far--and just a day pack. My biking humiliation I detailed on the Meltdown post. So--here I am one year for my left knee and three months for my right. I am still struggling with a weaker right quad, lack of stamina and general conditioniing. I am no where near the person I was four years ago.
So, yes, I am grieving---and it is perfectly okay to do so. I don't like being a patient, I don't like people knowing about my knees, I feel like I lost. Some of it is just the fatigue and depression from two major surgeries in one year--too much really, I am sorry I did not wait longer for my right knee. I feel worn out and when I go into the gym, I almost don't want to work out---a feeling I have never had before. I have always loved the gym. Some of the time, I feel like "what is the use".
But the reality is that if you don't keep your muscles strong, the knee will not work properly. You need strong muscles and ligaments to keep all that metal in the right position. I run up the stairs--but sometimes I hold onto the bannister on the way down---I still cannot believe that I do that!!
Oh well, My knees were gone so now I am stuck sounding like the crocodile in Captain Hook---Once in the movies, my knee made weird noises and everyone said, what is that noise---I almost died. But, I held my knee really stiff and it did not make more noise. But, at least I have no pain. Kelly