Miss Carol, wondering if you've been alone at all since your surgery? It's easy to become dependent on others especially when we're feeling vulnerable, frightened, and in pain. I'm sure you suffered anxiety at the prospect of surgery, but you faced it head on because you had no choice if you wanted to lose the pain.
Now it's time to go home. Back to your nest, your life, your reality, your own home. As much as our friends and family love us, they need and most likely want their life and their reality back. Caring for and coddling others is draining, house guests can suck the energy out of us no matter how much we love them. You've heard the saying "guests like fish, get stinky after three days." You certainly don't want to burn bridges with those you love by overstaying your welcome. You're stronger than you think, you can do this.
You need to start envisioning yourself at home, your home, living alone as you once did comfortably. Focus on what you miss, imagine your days and how you'll fill them. You may need structure at first, staying busy, occupying your mind and body as you re-adjust to being back home. Plan your days out ahead of time, what you'll do, how you'll fill them by staying busy. Arrange time with friends for breakfast out, lunches or dinners. Schedule it now in a day planner so you don't fall into a rut of getting home, sitting alone and ruminating over your temporary issues. Invite friends or loved ones over and prepare dinner together as you chat and laugh in your own home. Have someone over for coffee and dessert. Compose letters or emails, go to the movies, join a club or church group, volunteer. Nothing takes our minds off of ourselves like reaching out and helping others. You can do this, it's time you do this, you need to do this. You're stuck and spinning your wheels but you have the power to change it so please formulate a plan to begin moving forward. We're here for you and will help in any way we can. You can do this!
This message of tough love is sent with prayers for strength, peace of mind and accompanied by a warm hug.
@Misscarol