I too am so pleased to read people’s accounts. You have expressed exactly what I’ve been thinking regarding after care and being given the information about those days when anxiety and depression set in. Until I joined the forum recently I was beginning to believe that tha state of anxiety was peculiar only to me . I am now becoming reassured and hope that my unexpected troubled mind will revert to a state of calm . Thank you .I too am glad I found this forum and know I'm not alone. I may suggest to the "Joint Nurse Coordinator" that they add counseling to their post op therapy. Only if they see signs, and my signs should have set off bells and red lights. I had an especially hard time, and people handle depression so differently. That should be on their checklist for each visit, and upon discharge in case they feel you need follow up counseling. Mental health problems are so often ignored.
Hi there! I had a left THR posterior in the beginning of February in hospital in Southampton. It was as a result of a fall in a dangerously maintained swimming pool changing room - i am doing a personal Liability claim. The reason I am replying to your message is your comment about the lack of emotional support in the UK. I have very up and down days even though i have practical help from my estranged husband and autistic 23 year old son. I have had NO support at all from the hospital - even the OT have only just noticed me and are not coming round for another 3 to 5 weeks. Had one badly written sheet with instructions and pictures from the hospital which a friend of mine pointed out was the same one he had 20 years ago. When I rang the GP for counselling they referred me to steps to well being which will not help autistic people like me. Like you I hope this forum is a start to feeling less lost. Sorry about rambling on.. All the best from CarolineIt sounds like you've had a particularly bad time. I remember being 'told off' some years ago for not being able to get on the bedpan in hospital and I fell to pieces. When you are in such a vulnerable state, everything is a big deal. All you want is kindness and understanding. I asked a nurse last week to hold my hand in the anaesthetic room and I've been having surgeries for 43 out of my 50 years. I know that feeling of just wanting to bury yourself under the covers and it is like a vicious circle that then affects your physical pain and motivation. Please be kind to yourself and know that if you need a listening ear, I am more than happy to help you id I can. Perhaps we can help each other. I agree nobody should suffer in silence and there is a distinct lack of emotional support in the UK too. Hopefully this forum is a start. Take care of yourself. Best wishes Amanda.
I'm sorry you had an accident and it resulted in a total hip replacement.I had a left THR posterior in the beginning of February in hospital in Southampton.
Thanks! I'm not a big fan of video chat, but I keep in touch with people via text, my group chats, etc.Hang in there! Find something to do that will engage your mind- I had to do this earlier in the week. Too much time dwelling on the situation was not helping me. I am still having brain fog from the anesthesia so I am doing activities that don’t require full concentration. I truly think going through this single has its own set of problems. You could FaceTime friends or have a Zoom meet up or even old fashioned calls if you cannot visit in person. You may need to reach out first as friends may think you are still sleeping around the clock. This downtime is a great opportunity to binge seasons of shows you may have missed. Keep posting on BoneSmart as we are all in this together! And we understand