Breakdown!

[BigRed]

Cindy, I cannot add advice to the great ideas others have already posted. I just want to emphasize that feeling down and crying is so normal after this surgery. My emotions have been on a rollercoaster since my surgery. At 7 weeks post-op I have more good days than bad. Things will get better.

 

[BLAIZEN]

I too have had my breakdowns. I thought for the first 3 weeks I might be loosing my mind, and my poor husband didn't know what to do. I would just be sitting there and start crying for no reason. I finally wrote it off to the meds.

As for the hospital bill, I will never forget the day I opened my bill. Just the hospital bill was right at $92,000. We have insurance, but I didn't know how much it would pay. I was freaking out until I got my explanation of benefits saying the hospital accepted the amount the insurance paid as full payment. Whew! What a relief!

I agree with calling the hospital and talking to someone about your bill. Things will get better!

 

[petuniafish]

Jennifer,

That was really inconsiderate of your husband. But some men just can't handle you not being available for them, and then too top it off crying! There is so much depression, anxiety etc. associated with all this. If you have a friend or family member who really listens to you and you can just person to when the blues strike, use them! I have called close friends when I cried with this and I am totally un-understandable. But just having someone listen caringly on the other end- whew.

I cry a LOT still. Have had another long term recovery injury. My husband was using the loo the other day, heard me sobbing and came in to comfort. He can't always do that, but I'd put earplugs in before I'd ever let him tell me I am too "emotional"

You are loved.

 

[Jamie]

I had my first tkp last April and I too cried all the time. I did not even know why I was crying. Of course my hubby did not help me out to much. I have my second Tkp coming up in Sept and I am hoping that I don't go through that emotion again. I remember my hubby would just look at me and say Geesh your so emotional anymore. :skp:

I dare say that if your dear hubby had to endure either a hip or knee replacement, he might have more sympathy for how you are feeling. I'm always amused by stories of guys who "don't get it" and then turn into whimpering puddles when they have a boo-boo. It doesn't mean they don't care and don't love us gals, but sometimes they just can't relate until they've been there. That's why you need a circle of friends who DO get it....and we're here for you!!!

 

[Motherofmany]

:amen: :agree: My oldest son is like that, and then thinks he is dying when he gets a scrape. Just has no pain tolerance at all. Funny because my grandson (his son) was comparing his dad's scrape to my incision and saying "My dad has a bigger boo-boo." :shk:

 

[Judles]

Oh what lovely sweet sensitive men! Ladies! I suggest you you really have a chat with them! The healing process is so much easier when our guys understand our emotional needs!!!! (0)

 

[Pat29627]

I was surprised when I told my doctor I'd had anxiety and depression and he said it was fairly common. I thought everyone else would be all happy since the knee was getting so much better and it was almost time to start driving and getting out. I sure wish I'd known about this forum in my early weeks!

Pat

 

[loggon]

Cindy

Hope you are feeling better. You have not been on in a while.

A lot of folks here were on the same meds. I can't remember what
my doctor gave me, but I never had the crying blues. He said some
meds will do that. So if you are having another knee or hip surgery, check with your doctor and see if he can't give you something different.

But this surgery is pure H***. it hurts and if you need to cry do it. Does not matter what anyone thinks.

 

[cotton1958]

I am taking Darvocet, as needed, and it definitely gives me the blues.....weeping spells. It's pretty scary actually. Kind of one day on one day off type of thing.