Like most everyone else, I didn't have much of a life before the surgery for a couple of years so I am delighted to have had the surgery. I do understand your questions and concerns, we all had them. It is a scary surgery and the more that you find out about it the scarier it is, especially when you find the posts of people who have gotten infections and such but in the end I realized I had no choice but to have the surgery. The most important part of the whole thing is finding the right surgeon and there has been plenty written here about that. It may seem time consuming but the answers to most of your questions have been posted and you just need to go back and read the posts. There are even pictures posted. Then when you have specific questions you will find there are a ton of us who are going to be there to help you. Good luck, Rowdy