AussieGirl -
I definitely know what you mean by folks wanting you to be perky. Today I'm having a punk day - feeling tired as sleep is still tricky and maybe mildly depressed Luckily my fella gets it. He cajoles me out for a short walk and ignores me cocooning in my bed on a sunny holiday (Victoria Day here in Canada). It's exhausting to fake it. I won't. People, especially with social media, have become adept at curating their lives so everyone thinks they are so successful, creative, competent etc... Fughedaboudid! It's definitely okay here to grouse and moan - we all do. It doesn't mean we aren't grateful for our new hips etc.. it just means it sonetimes sucks to go through what we're going through! As to the shower I'm six werks out and just started using the shower. The hospital loaned me a bath bench - I used it once! Too hard to get in with long legs and I was sitting on what I wanted to wash! I just did sink baths. The first time I showered I was scared and my husband was there but I could get in without breaking the 90° rule and I could stand okay so . You have a trickier situation.
Good luck tomorrow - my meeting with the gp is Thursday (my surgeon is a two hour plane ride away)!
Jan