@AftermarketPart Welcome to BoneSmart
Yes it can be very anxiety producing to have a first major surgery! First thing to keep in mind is that everyone you come in contact with - nurses, surgeon, anesthesiologist, etc - are professionals. They do these surgeries nearly every working day and have your best out come as their top priority!
One of the things I did before my hip replacements ( had 2 bad hips at the same time so had both replaced at the same time) was to spend some time in meditation. I did this the night before surgery. I got as comfortable as possible on my couch and put my attention on my old and very painful hip joints. Quietly, to myself, I thanked both for their service, remembered some really wonderful things we'd done together during my life, and let them know that their pain would soon be over.
Some affirmations that may help:
I am relaxed and calm as I prepare for this surgery
My surgery will be successful
I will wake up easily and feel refreshed after surgery.
When I wake up after surgery, my pain will be managed.
My body will work efficiently to heal after my surgery.
I trust my health care team to use their skills for my good and to promote healing
I also found that hanging on to my sense of humor helped as well - not to make a joke of every thing but just to be aware of any thing that might have a bit of silly with in it. Just an example from my own experience. During the pre op time the nurse who was helping me get ready (into gown, start IV, do vital signs, etc) approached with a large marker pen in hand - it is standard procedure for hospitals to mark which body part is being operated on and you will be asked by nearly EVERY PERSON which hip is to be replaced - she asked which hip was going to be replaced and when I said both she looked very confused and had to go back to my chart to check. As she saw that yes I was having both hips replaced she slipped the pen back into her pocket. And I just grinned at her.
If you still have a lot of anxiety the day of surgery do tell the nurse - they are very use to this and can give you something to ease the anxiety.
I hope this helps! And do ask any other questions you might have. We do like to help