@Mrty2019 I read and re-read your posts and I really feel for you. You have been through so much. I am glad you found this website and the wonderful people. I sound repetitive but I do not know how I'd be, or where I'd be if not for this website and these forums.
I was amongst the many who thought this surgery was next to nothing-silly me. A huge portion of my sentiment was influenced by what I heard from others. The standard placation about TKR is, "Oh...doctors perform millions of those things these days...it's nothing...people walk around within days...you'll be just fine." RIGHT!
Of course, most of us miss our autonomy, want our strength & independence back, dislike being burdensome on others. Soon after finding BoneSmart, which was just a few days before my TKR, I decided to go with the flow and let the process unfold.
It's been difficult, to say the least. Hardest things for me have been lack of an actual support system and poor pain management.
So here's an example, right?:
-Husband: "How did PT go today? What did the therapist say?"
-Me: "I had a rough day with hydrocodone, PT discharged me to outpatient. PT says though, "I'm doing too much, too soon...need to whittle it back some." Laundry, housework, pet care, etc
-Husband: "No worries...rest...I'll bring carry-out tonight."
-Me: "Hi...how was your day...take out?"
-Husband: "Oh, I THOUGHT YOU WOULD LIKE THIS...I BOUGHT TWO SIRLOIN BURGERS WITH BACON & MUSHROOMS FOR YOU TO GRILL TONIGHT."
-ME:
Feel better.