Hi
calikat. Believe me,you made the right choice with the THR. As far as the issues your having, pain, discomfort, depression all sounds pretty normal to me. I'm not a doctor but I had my right hip replaced on August 26th and my left hip done 3 days before yours, Sept. 23rd, so I do have some experience. I wont even get into my right hip surgery and recovery as the surgery was simply awesome and the 5 weeks of recovery were in my view above average.
Now the left is a whole other story. After having been through it once you would think I'd have avoided the pitfalls of surgery like doubt and depression. I had both right out of surgery. My left hip bled a lot after surgery, for days it leaked fluid and it hurt way more than before surgery. The right leg suffered none of this. When I got home my left leg swelled the size of a basketball and the pain was excoriating for 3-4 days after, even my narcotics did little to alleviate this. With the right hip I was up walking with crutches from the day of surgery and never stopped. With the left hip I could not get to the bathroom 10 feet from my bedroom without enormous pain. So I fell into a mini depression and didn't get out of bed for 3 days after being released.
When I finally did get up on Saturday morning and start moving the hip and leg around I definitely felt movement inside my hip. Now I was like 'what the hell'! I didn't feel that with the first one. Ok enough with the negative. Here's the positive. A week ago today I could barely get to the bathroom, now I'm walking around the block in my neighborhood with one crutch several times a day. The pain is just a dull ache, mostly after exercise, and like right now at 3:30 in the morning. So I take a pill and come onto bonesmart till I nod off.
The movement that I felt for several days is gone while the muscles around the structure are getting stronger to hold things together. I'm not depressed any more as the left hip is finally starting to recover. I started a recovery journal with my right hip which helped a lot as it gave me in black and white evidence to refer to in the recovery process. Maybe you can start one. It really helped me a lot as I wrote down not just physical milestones but how I was feeling mentally also. Now I have a reference for my left leg and right side of my brain.
You will get better, I promise you that. You're just in a difficult spot at this moment. Start a journal, it helps. As far as your husband asking the OS if you were just a wimp, ha ha, forgive him for he knows not what he says. We are alone in our pain and short of stabbing him in the hip with a serrated steak knife he will never know.
For blood thinner I was on Lovelox injections for a week.That's another sight to see, me a severe needle phobic, giving himself a shot every day. Ha ha.
Listen, you will get better. Just make sure you eat to the point where you're getting a little pudgy. You want a calorie surplus to rebuild all that tissue and bone. Lots of protein. Rest is crucial, lots of sleep and naps. But be careful, as I found out, you can over rest also. Don't worry so much it's not helping.
If you do feel like you detect movement in your hip, I'm sure like me, it will dissipate as that muscular girdle that surrounds all that hardware settles back into place and gets bigger and stronger to push things together.
I'm starting to ramble. Goodnight,or morning now. Peace.