Hey, Girl! I'm a bit ahead of you..had my RTKR on May 1. I've been following your progress, and I can so identify with the ROM quandry. But I will say that these wonderful people here have changed my thinking about it, and I finally have peace. I had a surgeon who was telling me I was "way, way behind." He and the PT's were making me feel like there was something terribly wrong with me b/c I couldn't bend well. My first day of PT I was at 50.
For my 3rd week checkup, my doctor insisted I be at 120! Well, I only got to 90 with them pushing me to the point of screaming. They kept telling me that I was letting the pain get in the way! Well, of course! And my knee was horribly swollen.
After getting on here and reading all the articles, I finally told my surgeon I'd recover in my own time, and that I felt my ROM would come, however slowly. He honestly didn't believe me! How's that for encouragement?!
So I'm no longer at PT (I'm at 8 weeks), and my swelling has gone way down, and I can tell I'm bending my knee so much better. No, I haven't had it measured, and I've decided I don't even care about the number anymore. Since I've quit obsessing about it so much, I feel so much better.
By the way, I'm still having to take pain meds. I went for a walk (15 min.) last evening, and woke up in the middle of the night hurting so bad. I had to ice it before I got relief, as the pain med didn't even help it. I've just come to realize this recovery will take as long as it takes. I can tell a lot of things are better (like driving now), but I've still got a long way to go.
I hope you can soon embrace that thought and just relax with it. I know I was getting myself all upset, too, and it was not good for my knee or any part of me.
Take care, and I'll continue to watch your progress.
Liz